The world is in a pickle. ‘A right royal mess!’ as my mother would say.

The news is full of stories of war. Immigrants trying to escape their homelands. People being displaced and sent elsewhere only to be turned away.

America is trying to police the world with a president who is vain and egotistical with no political credentials. All other world leaders either stoke his vanity or use it to position themselves into a more dominant position. Although I am really not a political analyst in any guise but I think we are all watching these powerful men with the same gross voyeurism we save for ‘Love Island’ or any other (almost unbelievable) reality tv. The school yard bully you either take sides with, or are on the opposing team off.

They call the absence of conflict ‘Peace’ but in reality it is not peace. It is usually dominance used to silence the other… This is not peace, but just a stalemate until something acts as a catalyst to continue the conflict.

These leaders and people in a position of power send our young service men and women halfway around the world, to fight what? Ideals that protect the economic impacts of world territories that don’t belong to us. We live in a global economy where all nations are reliant on, and intertwined financially with each other, yet we still insist on separation, tribal, geographical, ideological and religious boundaries. And those that truly suffer are the families and children in these nations.

The majority of rulers, either of governments or nations are male. Very few women are involved at the top level. And when you hear these leaders and politicians being interviewed the language is always very singular and territorial. Its about winning, surviving, short term ‘wins’ and sound bites are used that capture the current thinking of the latest poll from their constituents. Everything is transient. Short term. Fickle. One peacock set against another.

If the politicians, in their chambers were to be witnessed and over heard by their mothers and grandmothers when they speak and make their decisions would they make different choices I wonder?

As Trump and Putin sit down to discuss Ukraine, if the mothers and grandmothers were all able to join them, I wonder how differently the conversations may be? What might be added? And how might these discussions be navigated?

If we the mothers and grandmothers had our say at the table would it change the way politics and the world is run? Because mothers and grandmothers come forward with an ingredient that is very rarely part of the language and action of the professional male psych and that is love.

And I don’t mean the easy going, hippy chick, flower in your hair kind of love…

I mean the kind of love a mother has endured in raising her cubs.

The sacrificial love where you put your children’s and your families needs above your own.

The tough love required to educate your child and build a whole, caring and disciplined little person who can be resilient enough to survive in this world.

The unconditional love which requires you to hold a vision of your child’s potential in the midst of teenage angst.

Holding a long term vision for your child not just the next meal. Enriching your children’s lives through play, experience, adventures and excursions.

Strategising a future that will support and give long term security to your children. And as you see them start to develop you encourage their natural interests, talents and passions.

And should anyone try to harm your cubs in anyway… well, a protective mother is a force to be reckoned with!

And when one mother comes into contact with another mother, there is a universal recognition. There is understanding and collaboration.

Mothers with arguing children will encourage them to ‘play nicely’ and if not they will take them away from conflict.

Mothers form communities and if you have ever run out of anything there is always another mum on hand to help provide what you need if you become unstuck.

There is real bone weary wisdom that comes from a mother and grandmothers experience where their families futures and well being is built from selfless, unconditional, grounded and tangible real life, in the trenches LOVE.

They have put love before everything in order to provide an environment of nurture to grow secure and confidence in their family life.

If our politicians were to adopt some of the universal laws of motherly love into their scenarios what might that look like?

  1. Sacrificial love – The ability to do what is right for everyone else even if it’s not what your ego wants.
    What if our politicians put their own ego’s aside and actually spoke on behalf of the people? What if it wasn’t about what THEY want, but about what WE want?
  2. Tough love – To hold a line even if it isn’t popular in the short term, but it promotes long term stability.
    Imagine winning the vote not because you promised something for tomorrow, but because you could show a strong case for a future growth and stability for all.
  3. Unconditional love – That no matter what all decisions are made to promote and build a better society for our people and the next generation.
    Trust… imagine a government that you could actually TRUST that they had the entire countries needs in view. They made a plan and kept to it.
  4. Strategic love – That decisions we make today benefit our children for tomorrow
    In an ever evolving world where AI is key to developing industry and taking jobs off the market, what plans are being made for tomorrow’s workforce? and how our children’s future society might evolve? and how our governments look to enrich their lives as adults? Today!
  5. Protective love – We do not fight others under any circumstance unless they come into our space and directly aim to hurt our own people.
    Unless the conflict is directly on our own shores we no longer send our boys and girls to fight anyone else’s wars or conflicts. If the war is over economics, then economic sanctions should be employed.If conflict is over any long established ideologies that we have no right or claim to change we should stay clear of trying to influence outcomes.If another country invades a neighbour, all aid should be provided to support the oppressed, but under no circumstances should we send our children to fight for a cause which isn’t theirs.

If policies were made by the mothers and grandmothers and politics was led by a mothers love imagine how the world might look differently tomorrow…

I think it’s time the matriarch took a seat at the table. Not in a position of power but as a chaperone for our children’s future and keeper of supporting a longer term view and positive tomorrow. What do you think?

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